Children don't always understand why their parents do the things they do. They may blame themselves for things they had nothing to do with or believe that their parents dislike or hate them even though that thought has never crossed their parents' minds.
Divorce can often be very difficult and not just on the couple. If you are considering divorce, you may be focused on issues such as determining which one of you gets the house and where the children will live. You may be experiencing a range of emotions from anger and disappointment and even fear of the future. While you are going through this process, it is also important to remember the psychological effects the new custody arrangements will have on your children.